By Pam Horton
Worrying creates stress for us and those around us. Yet I know many people who worry often about many things.
In reality, can worrying about something change the situation? Does worrying help with whatever the issue is? Do you feel better when you worry? I’m thinking the answer to these questions is the same: No.
So why do people worry? I believe it is because something is happening, or could happen, that is out of our control.
If you are a regular reader of Armor of God blogs, you will have seen my early piece about “attaining peacefulness.” It mentions that I learned to trust God and let Him be in control of the things I can’t control when our son was deployed to Afghanistan. Perhaps you also have a story of coming to that place where you realized there is only one God, and it isn’t me. That is when you can stop worrying.
There are many verses in the Bible where we have been told, specifically, not to worry. A couple of my favorites are these:
“Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:34 (NKJV)
“So, don’t worry. For your Father cares deeply about even the smallest detail of your life.” Matthew 10:30-31 (The Passion Translation)
If we can come to the place where we can believe that God has a plan for our lives, and the lives of our loved ones, we are able to come to have faith that God knows what He’s doing. When we believe that God is omnipresent and is able to be in all times at the same time, we are able to trust that He is in control. If God is in control, who are we to try to take that away from Him? If God is in control, we have no need to worry about anything. God’s got this.
Worry-free is a cool place to be. These days, I am very thankful to be fairly even-keeled. Do I ever try to take back control and start to worry? Sure, in the heat of the moment. A crisis can make anyone stress and worry, temporarily. We are only human, after all.
The key is to realize that we are walking in chaos and stop, take a few deep breaths, and ask God for help. Listen to that still small voice. Let Him tell you He’s got this. Then, let it go. Give it to God and trust that He will work the situation for His good.
His good may not be what we would consider good. Terrible things happen every day, but I believe there is a purpose in it—a purpose that I don’t know, but God does. Something that happens today may affect things decades into the future. We may never see the purpose come to light, but there is a purpose to all things, good and bad. I must believe it, or this world would make no sense. As Peter said, “But in keeping with his promise we are looking forward to a new heaven and a new earth, where righteousness dwells” (2 Peter 3:13 NIV).
On a more humorous note, because my default attitude is humor, I often tell people, “I don’t worry anymore. If there is something going on that I think needs to be worried about, I call my mother. She likes to worry. I say, ‘Hey Mom, such and such is happening and I need you to worry about this for me.’ She readily responds, ‘Okay Pam, I’m on it.’” Haha.
Pam Horton grew up believing in Jesus. As a teenager and young adult, she turned away from her faith for a few years. Once she came back around to understand that it’s not about religion, but a relationship, she began a never-ending quest to grow closer to God. Through this process, she has learned to stress less and choose joy. Pam has published seven nonfiction books that are available through Amazon. She has also written articles for the Military Counseling Initiative and Youth Worker, as well as being featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: Grandparents. Pam and her husband, Jim, own NewDirection Life Coaching, where they encourage others to move positively forward.